A free gift from Modern Connection Studio
A one-page check to use before any date or any text. Read it slowly. Answer honestly. Tip: bookmark this page or print it.
Before a date
- Fact, story or forecast? What has he actually done? What story am I telling myself about it? What future am I already predicting?
- The C.A.L.M. check. Consistency: does he follow through? Availability: does he make time? Leadership of self: does he run his own life well? Mutuality: is the effort even?
- Chemistry or nerves? Is my excitement coming from who he is, or from how unsure I feel about him?
- One thing to learn tonight. What do I want to find out about him, not just show him about me?
Before a text
- Connect or calm? Am I writing to connect with him, or to quiet my own nerves?
- Any answer is fine. Would I be okay with whatever he says back, including nothing?
- One glance. Is it short and clear enough to read in a single glance?
- Still me. Does it sound like me on a good day?
Breathe in for four, out for six. Then decide.
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